Trauma Therapy in Epsom, Sutton & Banstead

Understanding the past so you can feel steadier in the present

Many people seek therapy because something from the past is still echoing in their life today. You might not see it as “trauma” — you may simply feel overwhelmed, stuck, disconnected, or unsure why certain patterns keep repeating.

Trauma isn’t only about what happened. It’s also about what you had to cope with alone, what you had to silence, or what you didn’t receive when you needed it most.
Psychodynamic therapy offers space to gently explore these experiences at your own pace, without pressure or judgement.

Childhood trauma, neglect & relational wounds

Trauma in childhood can be obvious or subtle.
It might include:

• Growing up around conflict, unpredictability or fear

• Feeling invisible, criticised, or chronically unsupported

• Being the “responsible one” too early

• Emotional neglect — when feelings weren’t acknowledged or soothed

• Experiencing manipulation, gaslighting or subtle abuse

• Being loved only when you performed or pleased others

When these experiences aren’t processed, they can shape how we see ourselves and others. Therapy gives you a safe space to understand these old templates and begin to develop new ways of relating — both to yourself and to the world.

Why psychodynamic therapy helps with trauma

Psychodynamic therapy looks beneath the surface — not to dwell in the past, but to understand its influence. Through curiosity and connection, it helps to:

• Untangle the roots of long-standing emotional pain

• Understand triggers in a deeper, kinder way

• Break unhelpful relational cycles

• Strengthen self-worth and identity

• Repair the parts of you that were overlooked or silenced

This work can be deeply grounding, helping you move from surviving to living more fully, with choice and self-trust.

A gentle, paced approach to trauma

My work is trauma-informed and psychodynamic, grounded in the belief that healing happens through safe, consistent relationship.

Together we will:

• Go at a pace that feels manageable for your nervous system

• Listen to how trauma lives in the body as well as the mind

• Explore past experiences, current patterns and how they connect

• Notice triggers without feeling overwhelmed by them

• Build capacity for self-soothing, regulation and steadiness

• Understand how your inner critic developed — and soften it

• Create space for grief, anger, confusion or relief, as they arise

This isn’t about “fixing” you.
It’s about understanding your story, making meaning, and allowing long-held patterns to gently shift.